


Why do people say it? "Not to be rude but..."? "Not to be rude but you look awful today." "Not to be rude but that dress looks like shit on you." "Not to be rude but who did your hair this morning?" "Not to be rude but why are you here?" Um, I am pretty sure that when people say "Not to be rude but..." or "No offense but..." they are in fact being quite rude and offensive. And actually, I am usually offended before they even finish the sentence. Just the phrase "No offense but..." is so annoying that it offends me even more than any of the words that follow it possibly could.
Could the combination of these dress and these shoes offend anyone? Is this necklace rude? I don't think so. All three work so harmoniously together that they are so non-offensive as to be desirable. So maybe when describing the look one could say, "Not to be complementary but..." or better yet, "Not to be jealous but... ."
Not to be rude but...
Until next time,
The Gatherer













